Sunday, January 8, 2017

A Christmas Vacation to Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, and (oddly) Kolkata

"Are you going to write a blog about your trip?" my mom asked me over Facebook messenger the other day.  I hadn't thought about it to be honest but that question reminded me of the reason I started writing blogs in the first place: to share my life with the people who care about me.  Sometimes I forget that people are still interested in that and I put my own silly pressure on myself to write something that competes with all current written material on the internet for a person's time and opportunity cost and hope that they don't end up disappointed with their decision.  That being said, here is a blog about my recent trip to Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, and (oddly) Kolkata over Christmas break.  It's going to be a much better read than the previous link on the your news feed that you skipped over. 

First I feel like I have to explain the reason why anyone would choose to spend Christmas break traveling to Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, and (oddly) Kolkata.  I had actually been planning to spend Christmas in Kolkata for a few years.  There is something about serving the destitute and homeless alongside nuns while getting sick on cheap Indian street food that just seemed liked the most Christmassy thing a person could do.  I somehow managed to convince some gullible friends that this was a good idea and everything was set.  Then I realized that on the way from Delhi to Kolkata for an extra $170  we could stop for a week in Kazakhstan.  I asked my new flatmate Elaine sitting across the couch from me, "Elaine, want to go to Kazakhstan?"  "Sure" she said; and I bought the tickets. 

And then I realized that it would be winter in Kazakhstan.  That meant all the beautiful pictures I had seen on Google of forested mountains, clear blue lakes, and wild horses might as well have been from Atlantis because I was not going there.  I was going to a very, very cold place.  I went out and bought another used down jacket.  Then a few weeks later we walked out of the airport in Almaty and stood at the bus stop and I realized that this wasn't going to be like winters in Arizona, it was going to be like winters on the North Pole. 

Looking out from a Ferris wheel over the edge of Almaty

Fortunately for us, at the recommendation of a friend, we booked our first couple nights at Dimal Hostel.  It ended up literally being my favorite hostel I've ever stayed in anywhere, was in a perfect location, and only cost $8 a night!  My first impression of the city that evening was not of post-communist blocks of depressing homogeneity or of Borat-style third world chaos but something totally different from either.  Almaty is the largest city in central Asia (which means absolutely nothing - it's only 1.5 million people) and is a place of trendy coffee shops, irresistible sushi bars, beautiful freeways, and unique Kazakh culture - like fermented horse milk.  

Yes that's right, fermented horse milk.  It deserves its own paragraph.  Apparently mare's milk is actually indigestible for humans; unless some of the lactose is broken down through fermentation.  We decided to ease into the idea of trying it by first ordering Chal - another drink essential to Kazakh hospitality made from fermented camel milk.  It wasn't as bad as I had imagined and neither was the horse version.  It kind of tasted like a watery mixture of yogurt, goat cheese, and a nine volt battery.  I actually started to really enjoy it after the initial shock and ended up ordering another bowl of it. 

Sabrina trying Kumys - fermented mare's milk

We were excited to discover that our first full day in Kazakhstan happened to be their national independence day!  Kazakhstan had been occupied by the USSR for seventy one years before declaring its own independence on December 16th, 1991.  As the day wore on though I wondered if we had been misinformed.  Nobody seemed to be celebrating anything and we couldn't find any decorations or displays of national pride.  Later in the day I came across an English speaking man and asked if it was actually independence day.  He said yes it was, but not too many people got excited about it because of all the death and destruction is took to make happen.  "Was it worth all the lives that were sacrificed?" He asked with a shrug.  Too soon I guess. 

"I'm getting cold" (photo credit: Drea)

After spending the next day perusing the State History Museum and skating at the world's highest ice rink, we found ourselves huddled on a snowy curb with a pink sticky note that said in Russian, "Hello.  We are a group of four Americans with backpacks.  We are looking for a car to take us to the Kyrgyzstan border at a distance of approximately 240 km.  Please tell how much???"  Hardly anyone in Kazakhstan seemed to read or speak English so we had enlisted the Russian skills of our hostel host Dimitri to help in our quest to see the city of Bishkek in Kyrgyzstan.  Fortunately we met with very limited success.  In fact, the only driver that agreed to even read the note was a taxi and after recovering from the initial confusion it must have caused him, scribbled "100,000 Tenge" on the back of our note.  "$300!  Yeah right!"  We had read in a blog that someone had had better luck with this over by the main bus station so we had him take us there instead.  Upon arriving we saw a mini-bus leaving with a sign in the windshield that said, "Bishkek".  Or at least we thought if we could translate it into English that's what it would probably have said.  We went inside to inquire and found an incredibly helpful translator in the form of a young soldier who told us we could take the mini-bus all the way to Bishkek for 1500 Tenge.  "$4!  That's more like it!" 

Medeu - the world's highest ice rink 

If I had thought Almaty was the North Pole I was wrong.  That title should definitely have been reserved for Kyrgyzstan.  Well, and the actual north pole I guess.  There was a literal blizzard happening and our bus driver didn't even seem to notice.  He just powered full steam ahead, passing slower cars on the way.  The snow was piled up in beautiful drifts everywhere, stuck to every individual branch and twig of every tree, and completely covered any traces of the boundaries of our road.  The border crossing was easy despite the guard not believing the clean shaven face in my passport photo was actually me.  Neither Kazakhstan nor Kyrgyzstan required any kind of visa or entry fee.  After checking into our hostel, which was even cheaper but not nearly as cozy as Dimal, we set out to explore the center of the capitol of Kyrgyzstan and try the local food.  Surprisingly it felt much more Asian and we feasted on noodles and spicy beef soup. 

The Note

The highlight of our two day excursion into Kyrgyzstan was when we stumbled into a big crowd of what appeared to be a protest of some kind on the main square at night.  The snow was coming down and the wind was whipping it into our ill-prepared butts so we forced our way into the huddle to stay warm.  There were a couple people with microphones out in front reading something and then another man with a big fur hat and military shoulders stopped them and they argued a little bit back and forth.  The crowd shuffled back and forth and a few of them left.  The microphone was shut off and we thought it was over when suddenly it came back on and they started shouting something into it.  The crowd around us started shouting the same words along with them and I realized they must be counting.  They got to the bottom of their countdown with a long loud yell and then suddenly across the street the biggest Christmas tree I have ever seen started lighting up!  As all the lights from the bottom to the star on top illuminated everything around, we joined in with the crowd and cheered it on at the top of our lungs.  I thought about hugging the bearded man next to me.  He looked very warm. 

The giant Christmas tree in the main square of Bishkek (this is before the crowd amassed)

Back in Almaty I spent the last two days skiing.  For just 25 cents you can take a series of busses and gondolas up the mountains to a height of 10,000 feet where there is a breathtakingly beautiful ski resort complete with cheap rentals, black diamond passes, and mugs of hot cocoa.  Surprisingly, after five years, the basics came back to me pretty quickly and I spent two days zipping down powdery pistes with what appeared to be the entire country of Kazakhstan as a backdrop.  To me, there are few ways of passing time I enjoy more than skiing.  It is the perfect combination of heart pumping adrenaline, awe-inspiring beauty of nature, and downright child-like fun.  When I had made the initial decision to go to Kolkata for Christmas I had never guessed I would be taking an idealistic winter ski trip along the way.  I couldn’t stop smiling under my frozen mustache. 

The view from my gondola coming down the mountain at the end of the day

Our train to Kolkata took 32 hours and was 7 hours late and we had to share our tiny, smelly bunks.  This was more like what I had imagined the trip to look like.  We met up with a couple more friends on Sudder street who had thankfully already reserved some rooms for us and we finally crashed in our beds at six in the morning on Christmas Eve.  We stayed in the Golden Apple which wasn't half of a half as nice as Dimal and cost $10 a night!  We searched for something else but all the hotels were all full or didn't have hot water or windows.  Christmas morning I woke up to the sound of my alarm at 6:25 and met with my drowsy friends in the lobby at 6:30 where together we walked the twenty minutes to "Mother's House" (the name for the headquarters and living quarters of Mother Teresa).  I reunited with one of the nuns I had come to know during my six months stay there two and half years ago and went to help her serve the poor.  The MC was throwing a huge feast for all the homeless and street people and I spent most of the day sprinting around the tables filling up their cups and clearing their dishes.  I am not sure I have ever in my life seen so many smiles  in a single day.  It was everything I had hoped it would be.  

Back on Sudder Street after two and a half years!

I spent the rest of the week volunteering and visiting old sites and people that I had known from before.  It was a surreal experience to be back walking the same streets and eating at the same places and nodding to the same people as I passed their stalls on the street.  A lot of people remembered me and asked if I remembered them.  I wished they could review a little movie on the last two and a half years of my life and see how all of them had had such a huge impact on me and the direction of my life but all I could do was smile and say, "Yeah, of course I remember you." 

Mother Teresa


Of course, it wouldn't have been a proper trip to Kolkata if we hadn't all got sick with flu viruses, food poisoning, and seemingly everything else that one can catch in a week.  It just wouldn't have gratified my longing for the experiences of the past if I hadn't found myself lying in a cramped bed, too sick to get up, questioning why I had come, what I was doing, what the proper response of a white privileged American is to the degradation of life in the slums, and the meaning of life.  So I’m glad that happened.  A week later, after flying back and recovering from the various illnesses, I sat on my cozy couch at home with a steaming cup of mint tea and opened my computer for the first time in two weeks.  Had that really all happened in two weeks?  "Are you going to write a blog about your trip?" my Mom asked on Facebook messenger.  Here it is Mom, I hope you enjoyed my stories from my Christmas vacation to Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, and (oddly) Kolkata.  

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Who is Brant Copen?

"This is your life, are you who you want to be?"  I distinctly remember driving down 32nd street in Phoenix about six years ago.  I was driving my Jeep Wrangler and all the doors and roof were off.  I was coming home from work on a Friday afternoon and the sun was out in a clear blue sky.  I didn't normally listen to Christian music at that time because I thought it lacked imagination but this particular day I guess 103.9 The Edge must have had too many commercials or something because I switched it over to the Christian station.  An outdated Switchfoot song was playing that I had heard dozens of times but never really listened to.  I don't remember any of the verses but the chorus asked a simple question, "This is your life, are you who you want to be?".  For some reason I actually truly listened to that question as a question and not just as a chorus to a song.  "This is your life, are you who you want to be?" 

This is my life.  I am in control of my life.  I am not a pawn in someone's game, I am not a prisoner in someone's jail cell, I own my life and I make my own decisions.  At the end of my life nobody is going to be held responsible for me except myself.  I have the power to control who I am and who I am becoming.  This isn't someone else's life, this is my life.  I think it took a lot of guidance from others and a long time for me to even come to a realization of that statement.  I'm not just the product of my influences and circumstance or the people around me, this is my life.  I am responsible for who I am.  Then for a while that realization brought dread.  "Responsibility?  What's that?" was another line in a song that had resonated with me in high school.  Who wants responsibility?  I didn't trust myself.  Give me power over my own life and more than likely I'd just screw everything up.  That's what I thought.  So being in control of who I was was an unfair burden, a curse even.  I didn't ask for this power, for this responsibility.  What a cruel sentence!  Giving someone the power of choice without any of the information needed to make the choices!  It felt like it was forced upon me.  But I kept going and as I matured and as I started following Jesus I started realizing that that responsibility wasn't actually a curse, in fact, it was a blessing! 


I am not limited to the stunted imagination of my peers, I am not destined to anything I don't want, I am not doomed to failure.  I have power over my own life!  I have power to determine what I do and who I am.  I know myself best and who I want to be and I have the power to make that happen!  I'm definitely not going to screw it all up; after all, I am the most informed person on the planet when it comes to Brant Copen.  Nobody has more information than I do, if anyone can succeed at determining Brant Copen's destiny then I certainly can!  I started taking advantage of that responsibility.  I started doing things that I wanted to do.  Traveling, making friends, learning new things, strengthening relationships.  What a blessing to be the owner of my own life!  I get to do whatever I want! 

That's where I was at as I drove my Jeep home from work on that Friday afternoon six years ago.  I knew that this was my life, but was I who I wanted to be?  Had I been using the freedom and the power I had over my own destiny to become the person I really wanted to be?  It's funny how a person can miss out on that.  I know people who have lived their whole life knowing that they had authority over their own destiny but not using it to become who they wanted to be.  They wanted to be loved and so they started becoming whatever they thought everyone would approve of, but they turned out becoming someone they never wanted to be.  Or they wanted to be significant and so they worked really hard at achieving things that they associated with significance but in the end they became someone they never wanted to be. 

This song in this moment gave me a reality check.  "Are you who you want to be?"  No.  I thought about it and the answer was definitely no.  What I really really deep down wanted to be was someone who could look back on my life with a clear conscience when it was just me and God in a room and know in my heart that I did the best with what I had.  That I truly genuinely loved the people around me, that I allowed God to use me as He saw fit, that I used my life to improve everyone and everything I came into contact with instead of hurting or destroying, that I was the kind of person that could be trusted, the kind of person that lived a radical lifestyle of self-denial, that walked in boldness and courage.  I wanted to believe in my heart that I was truly within the will of God; not just what other people said was the will of God, but what I believed in my heart was the will of God.  I wanted to contribute to the improvement of the future of the world, to God's Kingdom coming "to earth as it is in Heaven".  I wanted to take advantage of the blessing that life is and truly enjoy what life had to offer and not waste my time waiting for things to happen to me or just waiting around for old age and death to come.  "Are you who you want to be?"  I wanted to be someone who loved God and others sacrificially not because I felt I had to or because I was willing to but because that was my default, what I really enjoyed doing, because deep down that's who I was.  But that's not who I was.  I still had a lot of work to do. 


Now looking back six years ago I guess I thought if I could just muster up the will-power for a good day or two I could change my own identity.  The truth is though, I'm still not really who I want to be now.  There's still a lot of things I wish I could change about who I am over night, but it's not that easy.  Becoming who you want to be takes patience and hard work and self control.  It takes perseverance and humility and resilience.  It takes a lot of prayer.  A lot of prayer.  It takes the willingness to reevaluate yourself and once again sit down and ask yourself, "This is your life, are you who you want to be?"

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Who I'm Voting for and Why

This month I am voting in the presidential election for the first time in eight years.  Why?  Well I told myself if I could vote for less than $10 then I would do it and it turned out that shipping my application for an absentee ballot was almost exactly $10.  The last presidential election I happened to be in Managua, Nicaragua.  I went to the US embassy because I heard you could vote if you showed up but they were closed by the time I made it.  Sorry America; Nicaraguan tuk-tuk drivers and a couple loose cows determined your destiny.  Anyway, it's been a while but this time I'm voting.  

So who will I vote for?  Well it doesn't really matter.  Hillary Clinton is going to win.  If I vote she wins, if I don't vote she wins.  I guess I'll vote for Gary Johnson.  Why?  To be honest it's totally irrational.  Like I said, no matter who I vote for Hillary will win the election, so I'm not actually voting in order to try to influence the direction of the country.  I'm also not voting in order to somehow redeem America's fight for freedom.  I doubt whether any dead soldiers really care whether I vote or not.  I’m also not voting because of my conscience.  Since my vote has no practical consequences I don't really have to worry about the morality of my decision.  It would be like worrying how to spend my millions of dollars if I won the lottery.  I have about 1/130000000 of the power in the voting process.  That amount of influence over a single decision is mathematically negligible. 

Wait.  So why am I voting again?  And why for Gary Johnson?  I guess it's because it takes so little effort.  You may not drive to a grocery store just to buy a lottery ticket, but if someone came to your door and asked you if you wanted to buy one you might say "yes".  Why not spend 50 cents on a negligible chance to win big?  It's the power of suggestion.  I was presented with a choice and it's easier to deliberate on that then to go seek out my own choice to deliberate on.  Of course, in this case Gary Johnson isn't exactly a "big win", he's more like a Powerball that only made it to $200, but hey, that's better than nothing. 


So I think I got trapped actually.  I decided to do something easy because it was easy and now here I am wasting time writing a blog about it.  Someone else told me I needed to help decide between two irrelevant things even though there were already 130000000 people helping to make the decision.  I thought "haha!  I'll show you!  I'll vote for a third option that you didn't even present!  I'll vote for Gary Johnson."  So that's why I will vote for Gary.  Because I had some free time with nothing better to do and the very limited amount of half-interested research I did showed me that anyone was better than Trump and almost anyone was better than Hillary and by the time I realized the triviality of it all I had already spent the ten dollars.

One more question.  So probably by now you are thinking that I am irreverent and disrespectful toward my own country, the voting process, and anyone who takes voting seriously.  So why did I write this blog?  Well, the point isn't to offend people who vote, the point is to point out the practical implications of an individual's vote.  There just aren't many.  Basically, it can be fun to argue about whether the dress was blue or gold, but there's no need to go throwing punches over it.  How Brant Copen votes doesn't necessarily say anything at all about his character or values, isn't right or wrong, and doesn't even have any practical consequences. 


And one more thing while I’m on my soapbox.  In fifteen years nobody is going to remember or care about this election.  I can't even remember who ran in the election four years ago.  I think the main political issue of our day that is going to have very long-term consequences that really impact the trajectory of our world and individual's lives is the refugee crisis and how we are responding to that.  That might actually be something worth arguing about.  Okay that's it, thanks for reading, leave a comment about who you are voting for if you want but don't spend too much time deliberating on it.  Argue if you want but try to keep it fun.  And most importantly, look up that Youtube video "Sympathetic Canadians Have a Message for Americans"

Friday, August 5, 2016

2016 Dan Hoffman Memorial Hike: San Juan National Forest of Colorado


I sat down shakily on a giant boulder, stretching my tight legs out in front of me, and tried to catch my breath in the thin air.  I was on the peak of Mt Eolus - the most remote 14er in Colorado and the tallest peak in the entire San Juan mountain range at 14,090 ft.  I snapped a photo of my boots perched over the precarious route I had slowly come up.  The last few hundred feet consisted of vertical faces, loose scree, and a narrow catwalk with thousand foot drops on either side.  It was day three of the 9th annual Dan Hoffman Memorial Hike.  This year was a year to remember.  Three days ago I had guessed we had a 3% chance of making it to the summit, and for good reason. 


When we had arrived in Silverton we'd had exactly 11 minutes to pack all of our things, park our cars, print out our tickets at the depot, and walk over to the train and board.  And we didn't even know where the depot was.  Or that we had to get our tickets printed out.  To make matters worse, Dan's back had gone out and started spazzing with extreme pain on the drive in.  Now he was walking like a 95 year old man on a mission, yelling out curses every few steps.  Bearded DHMH participants were barking out orders, sprinting full speed down random streets, and parking illegally.  I thought our best bet was probably to give up and hope that we could catch the next day's train.  Even if we made it on the train in time we couldn't possibly do the ten mile hike to Chicago Basin from the random spot where the train dropped us off in the wilderness; not with Dan's back like it was.  But then, I wasn't counting on the sheer stupid stubbornness of our group. 


I'd had another moment of doubt when at 2PM the next day, as I was frantically trying to set up my tent in Chicago Basin, I started getting pelted with hail.  For a minute I didn't notice the pain, being so engrossed in my self-preservation, but then something in my brain shouted that rain shouldn't hurt that much and I realized that it wasn't water driving sideways into my ribs, it was pieces of ice!  If this happened the next day we couldn't even try for the summit of Eolus.  But then, the next morning was as clear and blue as an Arizona sky and it stayed that way past noon, which basically never happens in Colorado. 


I'd had a few doubts in the morning too in the form of glances up at the ever steepening terrain as I climbed.  Up and up and up and up and up.  My legs were aching and my lungs were gasping and it seemed like the trail would never end.  Even if we didn't make it the trip would still be a success.  The point wasn't really to get to the top of Mt Eolus.  It would have been worth the nine flights and 70 hours of travel even if we had never made the train.  The DHMH isn't about the peak, and despite what Miley says, it's not really about the climb either.  It's about the hugs at the airport, the shared bites of dehydrated food, the discussed failures of the last year, and the overused retellings of past DHMH stories.  It's about intentionally depending on your friends and trusting that they'll be there no matter where circumstances leave you.  Not reaching the destination just meant one more story to tell next year.  My legs kept pumping though, one after the other, almost beyond my control and before I knew it the saddle was under my boots and there was just a couple hundred feet left. 



Maybe after all the DHMH is also, just a little bit, about sitting on top of a fourteen thousand foot mountain and looking out over the hundreds of jagged peaks beneath you stretching out as far as you can see, and feeling the sense of accomplishment that comes with conquering your own doubts.  I laughed as I stood back up to start the long journey down.  The 9th annual Dan Hoffman Memorial Hike of the San Juan National Forest; another epic success. 










Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Sometimes I Forget Who I Am

I've been following Jesus for a long time now.  So long that I have a hard time remembering what life is like apart from Jesus.  I think after someone has been "living the dream" long enough they tend to forget just how great they have it.  They eventually stop comparing their abundant life with their previous life and the past mixes in with the present in one blurry mess.  And when I say someone I mean I.  Is it possible for me to have so much joy for so long that I'm no longer thankful for it?  Can a person be so blessed that it becomes a curse?  I think most of the time if someone were to ask me, "How do you have so much peace in your life?" I would think about it for a minute and say, "I don't know, I guess that's just how I am."  I forget that I haven't always had peace, that my life hasn't always been great.  I forget that I used to search for peace and couldn't find it.  I forget that everything I have, everything I am, came and continues to come from God. 

Today I was reading a little passage from the Gospel of John.   Jesus is talking to a big crowd and he says, "Don't work for food that perishes, but for the food that endures to eternity."  What?  Talk about being counter-cultural!  Jesus is encouraging people not to work for their food!   Then he says, "The bread of God is he who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world…  I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst." 

I think the point Jesus is making is that we people tend to think that food gives life.  You need food to eat and air to breathe in order to live, if you don't eat, you die.  But it's really a misconception.  Food doesn't give life, God gives life!  We don't need food, we need Jesus.  It's like believing fish come from fish-hooks.  If you focus enough time and energy on gathering enough fish hooks you'll catch a fish!  But just because you take your fish from the hook doesn't mean the hook is what is providing fish.  Fishes don't come from fish hooks.  The lake is what provides fish.  In the same way it's not food, but Jesus who gives life.  "For my flesh is true food, and my blood is true drink. Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me, and I in him. As the living Father sent me, and I live because of the Father, so whoever feeds on me, he also will live because of me. This is the bread that came down from heaven, not like the bread the fathers ate, and died. Whoever feeds on this bread will live forever."


It's a good reminder for me that everything that is life comes from Jesus.  Anything that is good in my life, any peace or joy or fruit is directly from Jesus.  Anything good in my life came because of Jesus, not because I was seeking something good.  Anyone trying to focus on obtaining food is missing the point.  If you just get to know the source of all life then you won't have to worry about food!  Not just metaphorically, literally you won't need to worry about food, you won't need to worry about a job, you won't need to worry about a spouse, you won't need to worry about purpose, you won't need to worry about death.  If you are looking for peace, if you are looking for life, then you need to stop focusing on peace and life and start focusing on the source of peace, the source of life.  Looking back, I guess that's what happened to me.  I never did try to find a way to "live the dream"; I never assumed I could find fulfillment or peace or joy by searching for them and I was much too skeptical to believe that income sustained life.  The hope that I found in Jesus lured me into sacrificing all of those things in order to follow him and then somewhere along the way I was surprised to find that he was the source of everything I really wanted anyway.  Sometimes I forget that. 

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

A Cheapskate's Guide to India: 8 Buys Sure to Blow Your Mind

You always hear that things in India are cheap, but what does that really mean?  Well, even a cheapskate like me gets shocked by some of the prices.  Here is a list I've compiled of 8 shockingly cheap buys in the Far East.

  1. A night's stay on the beach in the most exotic Indian city (Goa) complete with A/C and lockers - $7
    This guy was so worried about looking good for his selfies that he forgot to don his swim shorts
  2. Filet Mignon and King Prawns with a vinaigrette salad and glass of red wine - $10
    Not sure why they were served in a hugging position though
  3. A ticket aboard a cross-country sleeper train (Delhi to Kolkata: 1100 miles over 38 hours) - $9
    This pictures was taken by Drea on the train to Goa 
  4. A pound of fresh, organic, local tomatoes - $0.08
    This is the only picture I could find that had tomatoes in it.  I think Drea is arguing the price of those gourds. 
  5. A custom tailored plaid business shirt - $4
    The one on the right is the custom tailored one
  6. A couple hours from an electrician to repair the wiring in your flat - $4.50
    Our friend Corny was held liable for these damages but later we discovered it was actually a rat
  7. A made-to-order, piping hot street food breakfast of Dosa (giant rice pancake filled with potato and onion curry with peanut and ginger dipping sauces) - $0.30
    Vlad is actually eating Baskin Robbins in the picture but you get the idea
  8. A city bus ride to the city center (6 miles) - $0.20
    You also get free life experience and character development with every ride 


Unfortunately not everything in India is super cheap.  Boneless skinless chicken, though literally as fresh as possible, costs $3.50 a pound, cheddar cheese $15 a pound, an average laptop $1000, and land is crazy expensive.  Also there is no way to ever buy anything used, no Salvation Army and no yard sales; so there is no cheap option for furniture.  Overall though India is pretty much the ultimate dream of a cheapskate. 

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

You Have to Worship Your Mother as a God


"మాతృ దేవో భావ - Matru deyvo bhava - it means you have to worship your mother as a god."  said Varma this morning.  I raised my eyebrows and flattened my lips hoping to communicate "hmm that's interesting."  Varma is my language teacher and he is teaching me some sacred texts from the Vedas - ancient Hindu writings.  Basically this little part of the text outlines four commandments: Worship your mother as a god, worship your father as a god, worship your teacher as a god, and finally worship your guest as a god.  This core Hindu teaching reveals a lot about India.

First it shows the emphasis of strong family.  There is another Vedas commandment that says outright "don't leave your relatives."  For the most part in India children will not leave their parent's house until they get married; even if they are 35, and even when they do get married a lot of time they move in with Mom and Dad or at least next door.  I remember one time in Delhi a shopkeeper told me to go find a phone and call my Mother immediately; she said she would die if her son was out traipsing around a foreign country.  In the rural areas of India the divorce rate is less than 1% and even in the modern cities it is below 7%; nursing homes don't even exist.

It also reveals the Indian view of education.  Education and learning are priorities here and teachers are to be respected and revered.  My language teacher Varma knows more facts about geography and even my own calendar than I do.  India had universities before the Roman empire even started.  (Unfortunately only the higher castes can afford to take advantage of this)

The last line shows just how important hospitality is to India.  Most families will give you a meal worth weeks of wages just because you are a stranger and a guest.  They treat foreigners like they are Bollywood stars. 

Busy India street in central Hyderabad (just to break up the text really)

It's important to really try to get to know a people before you make assumptions about what they need or don't need, what they believe or don't believe, and why they hold onto their traditions.  Without having discovered these core beliefs it would have been easy to assume that because Indians live at home so late they are fearful and dependent, or that Indian teachers are prideful and condescending, or that Indians' over-the-top hospitality is because they find you exceptionally attractive; when really it is stemming from a tradition of honor.  Honor that extends to the point of divine reverence albeit, but that can be addressed later. 


This is just one tiny example, but immersing yourself as a foreigner and studying a different culture can be incredibly interesting and rewarding.  You can join me if you like…